Preparing For Marriage

In this week’s class, we covered in much detail that of dating and also learned about love as well. Ever since I was a kid, I have always and still do have a close relationship with my mother. I cannot imagine my life any different than what I have now, my mother truly has been an inspiration to me. One memory that I had about love having a secret crush on a girl who I think was in the first grade, I was in kindergarten. At the time, I don’t think I knew what a crush was, but I do remember that she was pretty. It has been so long ago that I cannot picture her in my mind, but I think she had either blonde or red hair. Though I still have yet to experience love in a marriage relationship, I do have a love for my friends and family. One friend I had growing up was always happy when I came over to his house to play, but when it came time to leave, he would throw a fit because he did not want to say goodbye to me. To this day I do not know what has become of him, and there are times that I wonder what he must be doing with his life. The hardest time that I had of feeling like I fit in was at my first high school in Roseburg, Oregon. During this time, it was hard for me to find a good crowd to hang out with, but whenever I went to my release time seminary class, I felt a sense of belonging. It was not until I moved to Eastern Oregon that I was able to find a group of friends that I could talk to. I was a little standoffish at first because I was still new to the area, but I realized that they just wanted to be friendly towards me and welcome me into the area. The best friendships that I have ever made though were the mission companions that I had. There were times that I remember not always getting along with my companions, but I truly am grateful for them being there whenever I was having a rough day. I am not always the best with staying in contact with people that I know, but it does not mean that I don’t care for them any less.

With the experience of dating, on the other hand, I have had some good experiences. Throughout my high school years, I did not make dating a priority though because I was more focused on my academics. I also did not want to have a girlfriend before I was to leave for my mission so has to truly focus on my calling as a missionary. Another reason could have been that I didn’t want to place myself in that situation to receive a Dear John letter. For those of you who don’t know what this is, it’s a breakup letter. In my mind, it makes no sense to have the risk of being dumped by your boyfriend/girlfriend. Once I came home though, I was not as prepared to date at first. I remember it being awkward at first to ask a girl out on a date, but it turned out to be a fun experience. I dated this same girl twice in a row but said something to her that I think scared her off a little bit. As I think back to that experience, I have often wondered why I said what I said. I still see her at church from time to time, but I don’t know if I dare to ask her out on another date. Currently, with my dating experience, I have been trying to get the courage to ask a girl out but it’s always nerve-racking to ask a girl. I know that I will not be able to get married if I do not have confidence in myself to ask a girl out. Regardless if you are a dating expert or a novice, just keep in mind that the worse a girl could say is that she is not interested. In my experience, you just have to keep moving forward and eventually, the right girl will present herself. I will not give up on dating until I find the right one that I feel I am to marry. Once I do marry though, I will continue to date my spouse weekly if not more.

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